Testimony: Another Fallen Home on the Rise

Lisa and I are really excited about this post. We’ve been talking for some time about asking some of the couples we’ve been helping to share their stories. Without even having to ask, one of them has now done it.

Below is the story of another couple whose marriage has been riddled by an affair of immense proportions. Yet, they’ve begun to rise, and we’re really excited that they’re sharing their story. 

(As a side note, they’ve chosen to remove their names to protect their children. We’re happy to protect their privacy and the minds of their kids.)

Another Fallen Home on the Rise:

“I can’t thank you enough for your courage in opening your lives via this website.  Praise the Lord for you both and this website!  My husband found your site one morning when he was enduring the worst pain he’s ever felt in his life.  I am Jason’s wife, Mrs. A.  I am the adulterer who had an affair over 8 years ago.  I made a horrible mistake – I jeopardized our marriage, our children’s lives, and our future.  

I’ve been a believer most of my life, but I strayed from God during this period of my life and I regret it tremendously.  Like Lisa, I too fell into Satan’s trap and made the biggest mistake of my life. I cheated on my husband. The affair was with a very good friend of my husbands, whom I allowed to come into our lives in a way that I should have stopped, but without Christ first and foremost in my life, I was weak.  

I swore to myself that I would go to my grave and never tell Jason about the year-long affair.  I couldn’t bear to hurt him with the truth, and I thought I could save him the pain in spite of what I had done.  I was wrong.  God had other plans.  God has been very much a part of my life in the past few years, and I have grown into such an intimate relationship with Him.  I’ve finally stopped thinking about myself long enough to listen to God.  He convicted me to tell Jason the truth, to confess.  Confessing to God wasn’t enough.  I had to confess to Jason, he deserved to know the truth and have the opportunity to forgive me.  

“You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” 

Matthew 7:5 NIV

I listened to God and the timing was right. 

“Since ancient times no one has heard, no ear has perceived, no eye has seen any God besides you, who acts on behalf of those who wait for him.”

Isaiah 64:4 NIV

I believe that any sooner would have been disastrous to our marriage.  We have both grown so much in Christ over the past few years.  I can certainly say that I took the “leap of faith” and believed God and trusted God because of His faithfulness. 

“Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail.  They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.” 

Lamentations 3:22-23 NIV

     My husband is an amazing man, he listened as I confessed, we cried as we held each other, and Praise the Lord, Jason forgave me.  

“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” 

Eph. 4:32 NIV

My confession took place on 4/19/08.  Each day is a struggle in itself, but praise God that we are closer than ever, and our marriage is stronger than ever.  The wall that I built up over 8 years ago is crumbling down, piece by piece because of God’s amazing grace!   We both know in our hearts that God will use this for good. 

“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Romans 8:28 NIV

We have a purpose, our marriage has a purpose, and God will reveal it to us in His time and we will obey Him.  We fight daily to keep a wall of protection around our marriage to keep Satan out.  He is relentless, but God is Almighty!  Praise the Lord!

My daily prayer for my husband is:

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

 Phil. 4:6-7 NIV

I share my thoughts about my affair to offer hope to those suffering.  Whether you’re the cheater or the faithful spouse, you are undoubtedly in pain.  I was in tremendous pain for 8 years, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.  I still suffer from physical pain and recently migraines and by no means do I feel “better, relieved, a burden lifted off my shoulders”, or any such relief by confessing.  Watching my husband suffer the gut-wrenching pain that he is enduring is heartbreaking.  But God is good, merciful and faithful, and I know he heals broken hearts.  He has given me an inner peace through the Holy Spirit within me and I know in my heart and soul that our marriage will survive.  Through this painful situation we have certainly grown closer than ever and are on the road to oneness with Christ leading the way. 

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you.  I do not give to you as the world gives.  Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”

John 14:27 NIV

May the Lord bless each person who reads this message.”

Praise God for another testimony of his goodness and mercy! Praise God that Jesus left us the perfect example of forgiveness! Praise God for another home on the rise!