Posted by: Lisa Guyer | September 28, 2009

It’s Not Burdensome

I have written about submission before and about letting your husband lead as it talks about in scripture.  We have gotten quite a few negative comments, but it all comes down to this.  Do you believe that scripture is God-breathed and the one authority for your life?  If so, then you must take what you read and apply it…no matter if it seems “old-fashioned” or if it seems impossible. 

In 1 John 5, the author explains this very concept. “Everyone who believes that Jesus is the Christ is born of God, and everyone who loves the father loves his child as well. This is how we know that we love the children of God: by loving God and carrying out his commands. This is love for God: to obey his commands. And his commands are not burdensome, for everyone born of God overcomes the world…”  His commands are not burdensome, because He is the one who created us.  He knows the best way that his creation should work.  Derek gave this example while speaking at a church in Ohio a while back on this subject: 

Picture a man who built a car.  He knows everything about the car.  How it runs best, what can cause it to break down, what can make it run more efficiently, etc.  One day he gives the car to someone, along with the manual of operating instructions and hints and tips on how it runs best.  The man takes the car but throws the manual on the passenger’s seat unopened.  He then gets behind the car and begins pushing it.  The car maker looks at him and says, “You know, there’s an easier way to do that…”  The man grunts as he’s pushing and says, “Yeah, thanks but I think I’ll just do it my way.”  The car maker looks confused and again says, “Yes, but if you would just get the keys and put them in the ignition…”  “Look, I don’t need your help, I’ll just do this on my own,” the man replies.  The car maker just stands back shaking his head. 

Seems silly, huh?  But that is exactly what we are doing when we read a verse like this and say things like: “Oh that’s just old-fashioned.  God doesn’t really want us to still live like that.  Women aren’t oppressed like that anymore.  Men have no authority over us.”

For those of you thinking those very things, go ahead and keep pushing your car.  Push it all around town until you get tired of fighting with it.  Then, for once, just try doing it the Creator’s way. Will your husband always make the right decision?  Will he always be looking out for your best interest?  Will he never take advantage of this “power”?  We can only hope those things are true, but we know that men make mistakes.  Our real hope doesn’t lie in our husbands to always do the right thing, but in God to take our obedience and bless us for it.

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and puts them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.”  So, now, the question remains…do you believe that God is your creator and thus knows what’s best for you?  If you do, then obey his commands. “Wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” 

If you have any further questions about submission and the practicality of it, please contact us. We understand the personal nature of these subjects and would be happy to talk with you privately about it.


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