Posted by: Derek Guyer | February 10, 2009

ROTH Challenge #13

Have you ever hurt someone so badly that it makes you sick to your stomach to think about what you’ve done? Have you ever been hurt by someone so badly that you lay in bed sleepless for hours as you play through the thoughts, feelings, and emotions over and over again in your mind? I’ve done both and loathed every minute of it.

We’ve all been hurt by someone. In fact, most of us have done quite a bit of harm ourselves. This frequently happens in the home and, for numerous reasons, makes us enemies in our marriages. Instead of seeing the battle in the Heavens that is tearing us apart, we’re busy fighting the ones we “love” in our homes with no regard for the covenants we’ve made with them or the damage we’re doing to them.

Given the sky-rocketing divorce rates and the promiscuous lifestyles we’re all surrounded by, it’s no wonder we’re enemies at home. We’ve lost sight of the love that’s been shown to us by our Father through His Son. His love humbles us. His love changes us. His love is the love we show.

“We love because he first loved us. If anyone says, ‘I love God,’ yet hates his brother, he is a liar.”

I John 4:19 (NIV)

If you’ve allowed hate to creep into your heart and affect the way you respond to your spouse, boss, family, or friends, then take a few minutes to consider the love by which you’ve been loved. Scripture says that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. He didn’t wait until we changed. Rather, he showed us how to change by leaving us the example. 

When your spouse feels unlovable today, remember that you were once unlovable as well. Then love as you have been loved, and rid yourself of the hate in your heart.


  1. (Ecc 3:8) A time to love, and a time to hate…

    So, there has to be another definition to what it means “to love.”

    I suggest that “love,” in the Word of God, amounts to “unselfish concern for the Salvation of others, as much concern for others’ Salvation as you have for your own.” That would not be the standard of worldly love cuz the standard of worldly love is too imperfect and changing.

    Where God says that He gave His Son — the Word Which is the Christ — He is saying, in those words, that He gave His Love, and His Love — the Christ — dispatches those who are born again to send God’s Love into the world.

    This aligns perfectly with Genesis 1:3 — that He spoke, “Light be!”

    Sending His Love into the world means, in effect, declaring, “Light be!”

  2. …after all, Jesus is the True Light, isn’t He. Grace and Truth came by Him. Grace and Truth goes into the world by Him and through those who are born again. In this way, we love others, as God intends it.

  3. ==“We love because he [sic] first loved us.
    [I John 4:19 (NIV)]==

    How did He first love us? What IS that “love”?

  4. Is the love of God subject to our own understanding of what that “love” is?

    Do we impose our own understanding on the maning of “love,” as God intends it?

    Or, do we try to understand what HE means by “love,” and live by HIS standard of what it means to “love”?

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