Posted by: Derek Guyer | April 19, 2008

Dealing with the Pain

How many of you are sick of hurting? Sick of struggling and pain? Today, that’s what most marriages consist of; hurting & struggling people in painful situations. Husbands and wives are broken and they’re turning to affairs, pornography, fighting, alcohol, drugs, and divorce to cover up the pain.

“There is a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death.”

Proverbs 14:12

If you think any of those physical things are the answer, you’re wrong. Every drink, pill, or affair is a choice for death. While no man, woman, medicine, or anything else physical could fix our problems, in general or maritally, Jesus says he can. 

“Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.”

Matthew 11:28-30

Jesus asks us to lay aside our burdens, and take our rest in him. He offers to teach us a better way. He offers us rest for our souls. 

We can continue the way of death, or we can chose life. If you really want to heal your heart, your marriage, and your home, the answer is in Jesus Christ. He is “the way, the truth, and the life”.


  1. I am so completely grateful for your words as they come to me as a much needed shot in the arm. God bless you for your courage, your determination, and your desire to share your thoughts with others. You already give me much hope. Love you dearly.

  2. Thanks, Julie. Sometimes we need a shot in the arm or a kick in the pants to see what we’re doing is wrong and how to change it. We’re glad you’re encouraged. So are we!

  3. […] didn’t heal overnight. In fact, I’m not done. I’m still healing today. I plan to forgive and love for the rest of my life, as I expect He’ll be doing for me all […]

  4. […] back on our struggles, I remember being so foolish in dealing with the pain. I remember my deep anger and frustration. I remember sinning in my anger repeatedly. I look with […]

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